Seeing the Eclipse

I viewed the solar eclipse today through the free eclipse glasses that the New York City public libraries gave out to customers.

The photo above is how the eclipse appeared through the glasses. A moment of transcendent awe that turned an ordinary Monday afternoon into a Wow!

Another solar eclipse will come around in 21 years. I’ll be 79 then.

What takes my breath away is seeing nature in all its glory like when I viewed the eclipse.

The weather will be getting warmer so the days of talking long walks in a park or on the city streets is coming soon.

I imagine that even a person in a wheelchair can find a stretch of road in a park to fly by wheeling through nature..

What joy is to be had living in tune with the natural world.

I hope you enjoy seeing this photo if you weren’t able to view the eclipse on your own.

Thoughts on Living a Full and Robust Life

I have an interest in how individuals with disabilities and in fact everyone who has a challenge can create a full and robust life for ourselves.

“Full and robust” is in the eye of the person who wants to better themselves. We should not compare ourselves to other people. The grass isn’t greener over there.

We do best watering and tending to the “flowers” in our own garden. It’s likely the others fronting a green front lawn when you walk inside their house it’s a hot mess where you can’t see it.

For once in my life I could not abide reading chirpy positivity like that on the hellonutritarian website. It appeared daunting that you must follow a strict meal-prepping diet every week without fail.

My contention is that anyone can have a full and robust life of their own design. This is predicated rightly so on not comparing our worth to what other people can have and do.

There are as may possibilities for what a full and robust life can be as there are people. Living a full and robust life can be as simple as enjoying going to Starbucks for a caramel macchiato and reading a magazine while you’re there.

You don’t have to do or be or have what other people do or be or have. This is the beauty of defining a full and robust life on your own terms of what constitutes this kind of life for yourself.

You shouldn’t think that because you have limits or challenges this infers your life cannot be full and robust. It’s OK that you and I might not be world travelers jet-setting to exotic locales. It’s fine that you and I might not achieve the kind of success billionaires or others find in life.

I’m an ordinary person who has always seen possibility where others only see pain. So maybe I can give my followers joy and hope too. I believe that harboring envy of others and wallowing in self-pity is not the way to live our lives. Regret serves to keep us from having the full and robust life that IS possible if we stop dwelling on what we can’t have.

I recommend buying and reading the book Lightly by Francine Jay. In it she writes what I’ll end here with:

“The goal is not to get more done but to have less to do. Fewer distractions and more focus lead to freer, more fulfilling days.”

So in the end you could say a full and robust life is one where we have the freedom to do the things that make us happiest. Resisting falling into “grind culture” habits can free our time to do what we love. Passport and megabucks optional.

The Real Convenience Store

I wanted to talk about workarounds that can make life easier.

In my view ordering groceries and household items online is the real convenience store.

I went in person to a supermarket to buy one item that took 5 minutes to find.

Waiting on the “Express” Lane took over 10 minutes!

Since that store delivers I will likely order the item online when it’s running low.

One other thing that’s a case study in convenience might not seem easier. I call this “just in time” shopping. To wit: walking to the local food market to buy groceries when you need them.

Like going to the deli counter to buy salmon filets and a crab cake for three nights of dinner. This is what I’ve been doing.

As I doubt spending an hour shopping in person will spark joy.

In New York City you can shop online using PeaPod (Stop-n-Shop) and Fresh Direct. Local supermarkets also often have online ordering as I’ve discovered.

At the height of COVID it was hard to order groceries online. Now that it’s easy to do this I say make reserving a weekly timeslot a habit.

Though if you’re like a person who told me he enjoys in person shopping this might rock you to wheel a cart around the aisles.

Right when I was waiting over 10 minutes on the Express Lane I remembered why I prefer shopping online : )

Magic Chef

The photo above is of my small Magic Chef refrigerator. This is how I reorganized the contents via the advice in Fridge Love for a freezer-top basic model.

Before the eggs were on the bottom shelf. The yogurt was on the door rack.

The skim milk I use to make hot cocoa. Author Kristen Hong is against drinking milk when you’re older as she claims doing so can age you faster.

It’s the one time I will post this kind of photo. Perhaps viewing the photo you can get an idea of how the book’s subtitle gets at what you can do: Organize Your Refrigerator for a Healthier, Happier Life.

Viewing the contents of our fridge should be a joy to behold. This is what will make it easier to cook our own dinners–and hopefully nutritious meals that nurture our bodies.

We should modify what author Kristen Hong tells readers to do to suit our needs. I created the Pan-Roasted Brussels Sprouts recipe for one dinner. I’m not going to meal-prep for hours on a Sunday in advance for every dinner of the coming week.

I submit that cooking for hours on end is not in the cards for most people. In coming blog entries I’ll talk about workarounds to doing that. The goal is to Make Life Easier.

My Insight on the Nutritarian Diet

In here I’m going to write about my take on the Fridge Love author’s stance.

The fact is it appears people who *need to* lose weight have been successful in doing this using the Nutritarian Diet. On this strict diet you limit your salt intake to 1,000 mg per day. You cut out using any oil–even don’t use olive oil.

Limiting sodium to 1,000 mg per day sounds OK. Though I take with a grain of salt the author’s advice about “meal-prepping” for hours on a Sunday everything you’re going to eat in the coming week.

Doesn’t chilling out sound better than overworking yourself over the stove in your limited free weekend time. I’d like to talk about “workarounds” for those of us with a low energy level or who are otherwise unable to make our own soup from scratch every week.

The canned soup I buy has salt and sometimes cane sugar. I use the Amy’s Organic varieties that are free of safflower or sunflower oil: split-pea, low-in-sodium lentil, tomato bisque, quinoa red lentil and kale, French country vegetable, and porcini mushroom.

The other Amy’s soups list safflower or sunflower oil as an ingredient. Those are unhealthy fats. Dr. Frank Lipman, MD in his book How to be Healthy advises readers to steer clear of these oils as well as to not use corn, canola oil, cottonseed, and vegetable oil too.

Sadly, the Amy’s Organic Soups used to cost $3.29. They are now $4.99 each. Still a “time savings”: when you don’t have the energy to make your own soup.

As a one-person household I spend 30 minutes each evening cooking dinner for 5 days a week. Some of us have the energy and love cooking elaborate recipes with 8 or more ingredients. I dare submit that this is not real-life for most of us.

The Fridge Love author to her credit cites mushrooms as a super food. For years now I’ve scrambled organic shitake mushrooms with organic eggs for breakfast. She is against using eggs.

Eight ounces of tofu has 18 grams of protein–more than two eggs. I’ll give you here the one Fridge Love recipe soon that I’ll be using: Tofu Eggs. It requires only three or so ingredients.

Sadly too, it’s hard to qualify for SNAP benefits or food stamps when your income is too high. I recommend using a food pantry. Even though a person might be too proud to want to do this it’s worth considering.

Lastly: I’ll end here with a sage idea: “Take what works and leave the rest” when another person–even a so-called expert–gives you advice.

I accept that I can’t adhere to the nutritarian diet. (I’m Italian–I’m going to have a pastry once or twice a month!)

What I have done is reorganize my fridge and freezer according to Kristen Hong’s guidelines as to where to store food items inside. I’m also buying the Anchor Hocking glass True Seal containers to store food in.

My New Year’s resolution is to focus on health. Coming up a few new recipes that are easy to make.

Spring Cleaning in the Fall

I realized I had written that I would talk about my disenchantment with chasing material goods and mainstream acclaim to feel good.

At the height of COVID I started to fill up donation bags with shoes clothes belts and pocketbooks to donate to the Salvation Army.

In reality 90 percent of what’s donated to this charity a reseller in Africa buys. The items ultimately wind up in a landfill in Accra.

Instead I’ve found a local thrift shop I can donate my like new items to that gives me a tax receipt too.

Since March 2021–over 3 years–I’ve donated a total of 30 bags to charities.

The truth is clear: mindless scrolling on websites can cause us to shop online impulsively. I’ve stopped doing this.

After my tidying spree I have one bag to donate this fall. That should be all. It’s liberating when the only clothes in your closets and drawers are the ones you wear every week.

Gone are the sweaters and other items that I bought because they caught my eye in a store. Today I have strict criteria for what I will buy and when.

This fall I bought two throw pillows and an ivory table runner to spruce up the dining table decor. That’s all.

Who needs 5 different sets of dinnerware? Three complete dinnerware sets were on the chopping block this March.

It can be overwhelming to need to take out and rearrange unused stuff to get to the one thing you need to find. Giving what remains breathing room frees our mind. Clear space clear mind is what I’ve always thought.

As a person who practices Feng Shui I’m convinced that keeping unused items in the same place for years and years causes stagnation.

The year is ending. Spring cleaning year-round is the foolproof way to spark joy.

Believe!

I tell you to believe that recovery is possible from whatever illness trauma or injustice a person has experienced.

All my life I lived with a disability I didn’t know I had until I turned 22. The story is in my first book so it’s out there.

Having read the book The Future is Disabled I think that author is on to something: individuals with long haul COVID symptoms are often becoming disabled.

What does it mean and how does it feel like to have a disability?

A person who uses a cane can go to the gym. Others might not be able to exercise.

Pity from outsiders and self-pity is to be renounced.

The fact that long haul COVID patients are becoming disabled I see as the segue to opening up the literature to include first-person accounts that ordinarily wouldn’t be told.

I’ll take this turn of events even if it took ordinary people becoming ill with COVID for there to be more compassion in society.

COVID threw out the rules in an old playbook that is outdated today.

In a coming blog entry I’ll talk about this new post-COVID reality and the benefits of breaking the rules that existed in society before now.

Like the unhinged pursuit of bigger better more that used to exist.

What am I doing smash that dynamic?

Stay tuned to find out.

Long Haul COVID Help

I checked this book out of the library. It should be required reading. For how to get help when you’ve had COVID and the fatigue and brain fog have persisted long after the virus went away.

Individuals written about in the book lost their jobs and often became disabled. Even with this outcome the author James C. Jackson, PsyD offers hope for thriving not just surviving with long haul COVID.

Reading the book could bring on survivor’s guilt for those of us whose bout with COVID was a one-and-done deal–so far at least. Being on the lucky end of the luck of the draw I think mandates that we use our fortune in life to advocate for health, wealth, and happiness for others as well as ourselves.

Are you experiencing a heat wave? Keep cool and rest with the air or fan blowing. In a coming blog entry I will talk about the idea that people who have had COVID are becoming disabled.

We need in this post-COVID New World to practice what I preach: “No judgments.”

Those of us with long haul COVID symptoms should be given compassion not told we’re lazy and should get up and be active.

Each of us is doing the best we can with what we were given.

I want this blog to be positive and life-affirming.

Garlic Scape Dressing

I’m going to give the link to the garlic scape dressing recipe I posted in 2017.

This is the time when garlic scape is available at the Greenmarket. I’ve used the dressing on leafy greens in a salad. It’s tastier than the old olive oil and balsamic vinegar standby.

Coming up the twist on the hobby that I was going to take up–skateboarding–and what I decided to do instead–roller skate.

Yes–they still sell roller skates.

Spring Cleaning

Those skeletons dancing around in our closets deserve our attention.

On the cusp of 58 I had the urge to tidy up all over again. Packing up two sets of dinnerware that each was service for four. Who needs three sets of dinnerware.

What remains is service for six in one set that I bought with a gift card I was given for Christmas decades ago.

The older I’ve gotten I’m aware my life is getting shorter. Hence the reckoning with then-and-now. The sifting through the contents of my apartment that brought on memories of the past. Of the Christina who shopped with abandon.

Others have written about Not Buying Anything for a year. About editing out their seasonal wardrobes to 33 items.

As a person who used to buy whatever caught her eye I realize now that retail therapy isn’t what it’s cracked up to be.

The authors of the book Happy Money wrote that the fewer items you have the more you’ll enjoy those things. This has proved to be true in my life. People who engage in consumerism have more financial worries and are less happy.

Who has the wherewithal to spend all our time attending to organizing vast collections. Having the Salvation Army truck drivers come again to cart off seven tote bags is Salvation for me. Not just hope and help for the Army’s recipients.

In our fifties it’s wise to let go of the things people and thoughts that are holding us back. Far better to do this today than to turn 60 and be weighed down with “stuff” of any kind.

58 is great. I’ve learned the life lesson that it’s now or not ever to be your authentic self. That who you were ten years ago or five months ago or yesterday can change when you wake up this morning.

I’m not that girl who bought whatever she wanted. I’m two years shy of what I call the “This is It!” decade. The skeletons are here in our lives to tell us something.

Those rattling bones demanded that I change my tune. Does inflation ring a bell as a probable cause for why any of us would want to buy one or two tee shirts instead of twenty-three.

The material objects crowding our homes can be painful reminders of the person we used to be who is not here any longer.

Far better to live in the present moment. To be optimistic that the future can be better.

To know that we are enough. We have enough.

That freeing up the space in our homes can clear our heads to see new possibilities.

Avanti! (Forward.)