On Being Different

An outlier, I’ve come to terms with the fact that I’m different.

I describe how I “operate” as being unusual.

No–I don’t identify as “Queer.” I prefer to use the word different or unusual.

Too I choose not to conform. Instead of using “she/her” as my preferred pronouns I use my given names as my preferred nouns as in “Chris/ Christina.”

It’s because I’m different that I don’t expect other people to be live act think and dress the way I do.

I’m able to have compassion for others.

Often I wonder: “Can we at least try not to judge others as often as most of us do?”

I have grappled with the fact that living a totally judgment-free life might not be possible.

In terms of the myth of needing to be thin:

We should love ourselves first in order that we can love others too.

If you hate your body and by extension yourself because you’re not thin that doesn’t bode well for accepting another person as they are.

Most people wouldn’t exercise the way I do. I workout like a madwoman in training for the prizefight of her life. The sessions are so intense that I need to take a recovery day afterwards to rest.

Each of us has personality traits we can use to help us succeed in life. To discount these traits as a factor in our ability to overcome adversity is what upsets me.

It hit me as I’m writing this that someone should write a book titled “The Personality Trait Fitness Guide.”

Using your unique competencies is the best way to triumph.

Each of us has skills, abilities, and strengths we can use to overcome internal and external roadblocks.

In coming blog entries I’m going to talk about my own fitness trajectory in the last 10 years of lifting weights.

I’m going to review the Top 3 Health and Fitness books I’ve read in the last 5 years.

I’ll also bust the myth of always needing to buy organic food.

Everyone’s doing the best we can with what we were given.

No one should feel guilty or ashamed because they don’t live up to some impossible societal ideal of how much you should weigh or what your body should look like.

I tell you: Be a Rebel. Dare to be different.

Walk down the street like you own the pavement.

Regardless of the size on your clothing tag.

On Not Being Thin

To start this story where it should end I have no desire to become thin.

I feel I have nothing in common with white affluent “Influencer” women who proselytize getting a “beach body.”

Using the term Thinspiration alarms me. No one needs to be thin if they’re going to go on a crazy “diet” to try to whittle down to their bones.

My body is at its “fighting weight” now. Which is great because by exercising I can burn off the anger I have at the injustice in society.

Hello folks–it wasn’t my goal to lose 20 pounds in the last 2 years. Nor do I like using the word “thin” or “skinny” to describe my body or anyone else’s body.

From the time I was 22 until I turned 23–in only one year–I gained 30 pounds. At five feet tall I was unhappy weighing 138 pounds. In the early 1990s I had about 5 sessions with an M.D. who had a practice focused on nutrition.

It took me 6 years to lose the extra weight.

In my forties I weighed 125 pounds.

Three months before I turned 46 I was going through a hard time. Suddenly and out of nowhere I told myself: “You must start lifting weights.”

Not at all so that I could lose weight or become “thin” or “skinny.”

I decided to lift weights as a coping mechanism for the emotional pain I was in. In March of this year I celebrated my 10th Anniversary of lifting weights.

So I went out and bought a cool DKNY pocketbook as a reward.

Again: the goal is not to be thin or skinny.

In the coming blog entries I’ll talk more about my weight lifting practice. I will review 3 health and fitness books that are right-on.

Too I will talk about my Left of the Dial lifestyle that is predicated on this motto:

“No judgments.”